N8, thanks for sharing your 180 revelation. That's been something that's been worrying me...what is a 180 for my sitch. Being consistently positive, calm and cheerful is a 180 for me. But OTOH, keeping my feelings inside and not making myself vulnerable around H is not a 180 for me, because I've been in self-protective mode for a long time around H. I've been wondering about some honest, vulnerable communication with H, but the feedback that I've been getting in my thread is that it's pursuing. Does it feel like pursuing to you when you do it?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
