New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Called my W this evening. I needed to tell her that I would be leaving active duty this year. Big changes for me coming up. The transition will undoubtedly affect my W and children too. I told her that. We are all currently living off of my Army pay, so that will stop sometime between now and DEC.

My W was carefully listening throughout. I asked her what were her thoughts. She didn't say much, just that "she really couldn't do anything about it"...Her tone of voice was friendly, even at times, she sounded like she was relieved that my active duty time is coming to an end this year.

I actually wanted to ask her about our situation and see how my upcoming change in jobs will eventually affect it. But I didn't have the guts to ask her directly if she would consider a reconciliation. I thought maybe I'll let her think about my first news first: leaving active duty. She probably is thinking about it right now...

Michelle, Carlos, and all: how would you approach the issue of relationship at this point, given the fact that I'm leaving active duty and that the regular Army pay will stop sometime within the next 6-9 months? Should I tackle the issue directly with my W and just ASK her about it? Should I take it easy and let her bring up the topic? What's your take on this?