How do I expose the affair

[Allen A]

Hey mb28 did you ever manage to download that guerilla DB video I had posted?

I looked on youtube and they only have four parts of the five up there, you really need to see the whole thing... its good stuff

If you have a look in the Ghandi approach thread i put another vid up there too... youtube this time for easy access

[mb28]

Allen,
Yes, I did finally get your link to download and was able to watch the whole thing. It's an awesome video, and I hope I can get my friend to watch it as soon as I see her. I can't send her a link because she only has her work computer and they block that stuff. Maybe if she helps me save my M, I'll buy her a computer (-:

[newmama]

ms WOW! I just caught up and am super duper impressed at how you responded to your H when he expressed how he didn't want to D but had his doubts! It is total script-keep doing what you are ding and be even more bold! I am inspired--SERIOUSLY!

[mb28]

Thank You, I've only been doing what seems to be working for since Monday and it has been super hard. One of the biggest things I've noticed has made a huge difference is me not asking him where and with who he is with. It's driving me nuts not knowing, but I at the same time I feel better not worring about him and his drama. And being nice to him, not in a doormat way, when he is around has helped too.

He has invited me to do something with him and the kids tomorrow. Do I accept?

[Allen A]

NO... unless it is his time with them, and in that case you hire someone to sit with them and him, YOU aren't there

[Allen A]

If it is YOUR time, you just tell him you aren't interested.

That's the ? here is I don't know if you mean he is taking them for his time and invited YOU, or is HE inviting HIMSELF into YOUR time with them?

[mb28]

Allen, it is his time with the kids. He asked me if I wanted to do something with him and the kids today.

[Allen A]

Tell him you are busy, keep it as SHORT as possible

NO CONTACT means NO CONTACT

[Allen A]

Let me put it this way...

We WANT him to MISS you.

He can't MISS you, if you are always available at his beck and call

Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder, but you NEED to be ABSENT

[mb28]

I will turn him down, thanks for the advice. I just wasn't sure, since this is the first time in a long time he has invited me to do something. He asked me yesterday, and I just told him I would have to think about it. And have not replied yet, but I will tell him that I'm just to busy today.