Hopefully Allen A or some of the veterans are around because I'm starting to loose hope in "R" with husband.
Spoke with him on last Sunday just to check in and see how he was doing. Hadn't spoken with him since our time together on Valentine's evening.
During our conversation we did a lot of chit chatting and laughing, etc. Although I know this is AGAINST DB rules I just wanted to test the waters and see where his head was about our pending D. So I asked him if he had heard anything about our divorce because I never received anything about our courtdate. He said that he had in fact received a call from his paralegal about a week ago and she told him that our court date should be coming up this month. So I asked him if we would have to show up to court and he said he thinks so but wasn't sure. I held it together but was devastated.
So we continued on talking about other things and I asked him if he thought I should just move away from California and move closer to my family and he said that he thought that question would be better suited for my significant other. This answer completely through me for a loop. I told him that I didn't have a significant other and that he was my husband and that we'd been together for 7 years. If we divorced, why should I remain in a city where I have no family, etc. He said he didn't have the answer.
I'm just confused at this point. I've made or at least I feel I've made great efforts to completely END my A. I'm no longer in contact with the OM. I also told my husband that I will move when my lease is up because he refuses to come see me at my apartment because OM had been there. Apparently, all this has meant nothing if he still wants to go through the D. If I continue reaching out to him I think at this point I'm just making a bigger FOOL of myself.
If he wants the D, he want the D but why ask me if I've taken certain actions to end all communication with OM? Why tell me he would visit me if I lived in another apartment?
My friend told me she felt like he has NOT and will NOT make an effort to be with me and that since we were NOT intimate when we spent the night together on Valentines Day that I should read all the signs that are telling me he's moved on and that it's over.
Any thoughts anyone??? I could really use some sound advice from DB members.
