Moving on with my life #2

[25yearsmlc]

I hear you guys. But remember too, that even if the X h somehow "shows up" for a kid, or turns into super dad, it could mean two things that STILL mean it wasn't all you in the M.

First, some guys make terrible h's but happen to be pretty decent, or even good dads. It's weird but true. They may love the kids so much and put their egos aside OR want so much to look good in front of their kids OR Second, they really want to compensate to the kids for their failures inside the family that lead to the break down...hey, that really is a good thing we can all hope for. Those are the guys who are just better dads AFTER a divorce than they ever would have been before. IT may suck but my own brother was a negligent dad while m, and though he still doesn't see his d now as much as he should, it's more than when he was m to her mom b/c he'd dump ALL responsibilities onto the wife then. So being a single dad was kinda good for them...

Either way, doesn't make my brother any better of a h. He stunk at it. He's remarried and still stinks at it but now he's got an excuse as he is overseas---Afghanistan and he keeps "re-upping" so...whatever...his new w knew, or should have known what she was getting into b/c we told her--"he's fun and smart and won't cheat but he's NOT an attentive h!" it's just not in him to put a lot of energy into a relationship...and she married him anyhow...they don't have kids and won't.

ANYHOW, gotta go, but Hey, S2, everyone has those days and like you, I am affected by the weather a great deal. It's why up north where the sun does not rise for months at a time, would have killed me.

At least we know our rain here is temporary...so curl up and watch something fun.
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