I think in many cases there is a catalyst behind the ILYBNILWY speech. The catalyst for me was simply being hurt in a different way. It acted as a tipping point, let me see the situation in a new fashion, and allowed me the opportunity to re-evaluate everything.
In some cases, another wo/man may be the catalyst. In yet more, the kids leaving home seems to be it. Neither of these tells the whole story though, and I'm starting to notice a disturbing trend which is rightly labeled abusive.
People who are hurting don't need to be told "your spouse is banging someone else" unless there is something substantive and verifiable to back this accusation up. I have yet to see anyone on this forum provide any evidence for this oft spouted claim. Your own argument approaches post hoc ergo propter hoc (the fact that it happens sometimes doesn't make it a uniform cause, in other words).
M:40 W:40 2 teenagers ILYBNILWY: 09 January 2010 soon to be walking away my situation
