Her husband is fighting with everything he can, using members of their large family to talk to her, financial pressure, threatening my WH etc. He has a very different strategy (negotiator by profession) then I do, doesn't go by DB principals. His approach is way to aggressive for my taste, It may just push her away.
As to for their guilt; it's there - I see it, but you are right it doesn't change anything in their behavior.
I'm sorry about your sitch. Have you given up? You said that you are moving out...
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
