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[awest1217]

H never tried to really explain it except by saying, you know I am having a hard time with this. He knows it is inappropriate so I didn't make a big deal out of it. I invited him to go to the mall with S and I today, and he said he would love to if he feels ok, but of course he never showed up. He was "packing". Then I called and asked if he is leaning one way or another because I also need to plan for everything (if he doesn't come home, I have a lot of packing to do). He of course said I don't know and about 1 hour later sent a text saying he is so sorry he doesn't know yet and knows it isn't fair.

He keeps saying he loves me so much, but he just doesn't know what to do....blah, blah, blah. 5 days and most!

On a funny vindictive side, H texts me this afternoon to say how his life sucks and his day is getting worse because he got a ticket for going 40 in a 35. Then he had a little spot of what we thought was eczema, but has now spread to many other parts of his body so I don't think it is anymore, anyway the main patch has cracked and is bleeding and it is in a sensitive area so he is in pain. I kind of feel bad, but mostly I think "you put yourself in this mess, and life is finally getting back at your for treating me bad and being an absentee father." However is am still being very nice and although I want to send him an e-mail saying how the text shows why if he comes home, he can't every talk to OW, and how he is making a horrible mistake by not coming home because OW won't be there for him for forever. He is just throwing everything away, but I won't do it.