How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

Before this affair business came to the forefront I thought I was making good progress with the LRT. We seemed to be getting along well considering. At the time I did offer to do just about everything for her, I thought since I can't say ILY anymore then I would show her with actions.

The issues is, I was not always affectionate and failed to express "love" toward her in the past. She felt unappreciated, unwanted and unattractive. I made it a point to do everything for her and compliment her as often as I could (int he past month since this occurred). How I do I go more cold in a sense by no longer doing things for her when that is how I got myself here in the first place? Would someone who always felt unwanted respond positive to this "back-off" approach?

Giving our history (as seen in past posts) and now this A business what 180s or LRTs do you suggest. If my wife carries on like she is in prison counting down the days till she is "released" and in her mind we are already separated how is it or how can I save this marriage...