W officially in R w/ OM-

[newmama]

I simply told her that I understand what she's saying but that her views on M are naive- that M is a responsibility and not one to be taken lightly.

Again, this is to a couple whom were invited to our wedding.

So- I have nixed them from my life now.

Keeping clear from the vortex

good idea to stay away from people who are not pro-marriage! And I think lots and lots of people underestimate the challenges of marriage! I knew there would be challenge but was clueless about what they would be- still I picked a strong guy to be my H for this reason but turns out he was waaaay more insecure than I knew!
And if your wife is a trainer (fitness?) she might be one who bases self esteem on her looks? (NOT THAT EVERY TRAINER DOES THIS!!!)

I read "nothing prepares you for marriage except for marriage." sigh!

About the dogs...tough call. I'm not kidding, but I have read about couples making custody arrangements and a schedule for the dogs. What do you think? My other thought is either say: they are hers or say you will adopt them.