My S2BXW and I are meeting at the mediator on Thursday. Im hoping we can agree on everything and get it over with in one session. Ive come down a long road since she told me she wanted a D. Ive been trying to stay positive, knowing that there is someone else out there for me, a better person than my W ever was. Ive been at the point where I hate her now, it may be unhealthy but she has been such a cold person. She has no remorse/guilt for what she has done.
Enough of me blabbering, just wanted to make a post here since I havent in awhile.
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M-11y
D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
Also, to make matters worse, she is seeing someone already. This person was suppose to be my "friend". We hung out on weekends, did guy stuff, etc. I feel like I was betrayed by several people. Good thing is I am no longer in that city. Making a new life, new friends, new beginning.
@ClingingToHope, Hows your sitch presently?
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M-11y
D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
There's been no wiggling. It's just been a straight -- but slow line to D. She finally filed in February. I got a letter from my L two weeks ago that he would be receiving W's "wish list" for the D.
Haven't seen anything yet.
She's been very busy with D11's play -- she's on the costume committee -- so I'm guessing now that that's wrapping up I'll see some activity.
At least I'm out of limboland and have a situation to handle. I'm going to fight for joint custody -- I will not willingly agree to anything else.
If I get it, that'll somewhat doom W and living at the old house. She can't afford it without full child support and we're way underwater on it. Foreclosure or short-sale is the only way out.
So as this moves forward W will finally see what a financial disaster she's put herself into. I say that even if she wins EVERYTHING.
Me? I think I've hit bottom, but I haven't seen an OM yet.
I too think W has issues -- depression/lack of self esteem working against my neediness -- that ultimately did us in and there's no hope of turning this around until she figures that out.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Also, to make matters worse, she is seeing someone already. This person was suppose to be my "friend". We hung out on weekends, did guy stuff, etc. I feel like I was betrayed by several people.
Based on W's situation with your "friend", I was betrayed sounds more correct than I feel like I was betrayed. Sorry to hear about that development. Ouch.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Also, to make matters worse, she is seeing someone already. This person was suppose to be my "friend". We hung out on weekends, did guy stuff, etc. I feel like I was betrayed by several people.
Based on W's situation with your "friend", I was betrayed sounds more correct than I feel like I was betrayed. Sorry to hear about that development. Ouch.
Yes, you are correct. What comes around goes around. She will realize one day what she threw away...
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M-11y
D talk-7/28/09 W Moved out-9/01/09 W wants D-9/22/09 W doesnt want D-12/1/09 W Moved in/I Moved out-12/21/09 W wants D-1/19/10 D Final-04/15/10
My S2BXW and I are meeting at the mediator on Thursday. Im hoping we can agree on everything and get it over with in one session. Ive come down a long road since she told me she wanted a D. Ive been trying to stay positive, knowing that there is someone else out there for me, a better person than my W ever was. Ive been at the point where I hate her now, it may be unhealthy but she has been such a cold person. She has no remorse/guilt for what she has done.
Enough of me blabbering, just wanted to make a post here since I havent in awhile.
