Oh, filing the papers will only put it in the system. Still, if there really are no hours then there is no money and nothing for the state to take. I still won't know until I get surprise money in my account. I just won't have to deal with him to get it.
Help things between us? Frankly, I'm done being Ms. Nice Guy. I have been nothing but accommodating and kind to him through all of this nonsense. Why? I have no freakin' clue! The type of person I am can't stand to know that someone is upset with me, even if that person happens to be the man that destroyed my life and all hope for the future. I still have been the sympathetic, kind, compassionate person I am with friends in need. That is only doing further damage to myself and he could really care less. When will I get it through my skull that there is ZERO reason for me to deal with him about anything?
Now, that's when. NOW!
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I still have been the sympathetic, kind, compassionate person I am with friends in need. That is only doing further damage to myself and he could really care less. When will I get it through my skull that there is ZERO reason for me to deal with him about anything?
I'm still working on that, too. Tough. I do think it's ok to be your kind, compassionate self with friends. Truth is he's not your friend and hasn't been for a while now though.
OT - I assume that was in reference to the line in the article about "Resentment is allowing someone to live rent-free in a room in your head"?
I know, honestly, I don't give him any space most of the day or sometimes for days at a time. I don't think about him. Only when I'm stuck trying to solve more problems that his actions create do I dwell on it.
Otherwise......plugging along.
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Apparently I can't go after retroactive support because there was no order in place, only a settlement agreement. That includes attaching any tax refund for the back amount. It will only apply to future payments. Of course that's not going to do a bit of good since he's not working. There is no way to make this any better. Also, if I file it now and they get the judgment in place for basically 25% of zero and he gets a good job (by some miracle) then I have to go through an adjustment application at a $100 fee and it takes them up to 6 months to review it. How dumb is this? Truly sickening.
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Sickening. Why is he unemployed? Has this been for a while now? Do you think he will get unemployed within the next 6 months--if so, sounds like waiting to file might be better? Sorry for all the questions; like I'm playing 20 questions with you....
I only have what he tells me to go on. He claims he's not getting any hours. He has been working in the deli at a supermarket for the last approx. 6 months. I don't trust him any further than I could throw him and my suspicious nature where he is concerned has reared it's head. I really think he got fired again. He likes to claim that he was laid off but I've found out otherwise about the last job he lost. Of course, losing his career over a year and a half ago really destroyed him. Not my problem, but it has caused me enormous problems.
He can't get unemployment because he owes the state back money they paid out in unemployment when he was fired from the department and the city appealed and won. I told him several times to go apply for assistance and he won't. He enjoys being a kept man and whining about how crappy his life is and how much he wants to work....blah blah blah. Bull crap! He's loving sitting on his fat butt doing nothing. He texts Marc usually once a day. What? He can't call him to hear his voice? He just texts him? That is twisted in my book.
Whatever. I swear, I just want a Gabe-ectomy.
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Interesting....I don't really believe in these things, but interesting thoughts nonetheless.
Daily Tarot
Time to travel, perhaps near or to water. Move to a new area. A change of pace and scenery. A slowing down. This part of your journey needs reverence and thought. Pick up the pieces and move on. Regained health, but it's been a slow process. Take slow methodical steps. Keep your chin up, this is a time of recovery. Sadness, but not depression. Coping. Hope is renewed.
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Also, if I file it now and they get the judgment in place for basically 25% of zero and he gets a good job (by some miracle) then I have to go through an adjustment application at a $100 fee and it takes them up to 6 months to review it. How dumb is this? Truly sickening.