Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Thank you Allen for trying to help me with my sitch. I realize that this is not an easy sitch to try to analyze and I am grateful for your input.

I remember when H first dropped the bomb and announced his intent to move down south, I made the statement "so I guess this means we won't be moving down south with you" and he replied " you can move down there if you want but not with me." I told him that I wanted our family to be together and we were willing to move with him. He just said "thats understandable" I guess it was too late. He did not love me and did not want me moving down there with him. That statement has stuck with me. I even suggested that I would bring the kids down there to visit but he said "not while I am in this condition." He said his apartment was too small, he would like to move to a bigger place, etc.

Now that I know that the OW is in the picture, I am thinking that he would really be against us moving down there. I could say that it would be for the kids sake. I do have some family down there but I just hate the thought of being alone down there while he is involved with someone else. But, what else do I have to lose at this point? I like your idea suggesting that he could come back and stay with us until he gets on his feet and maybe we could move back down south together. I also am going use your advice about the ring idea. I am going to buy a simple band and wear it. I am still married so its not like I am doing something wrong. He probably wouldn't even mention it anyways or he might get an attitude about it but oh well. I have to see how this financial hardship situation is going to affect him.

As for me, I am having a good day so far. My family had a prayer breakfast and I had a chance to talk and laugh with family members. The house was running over with little kids running around and playing. I plan on going to the mall and maybe do some more visiting.

I hope everyones weekend is going well.