God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to behold; and I'd say He answered your prayer/question in a mighty way; letting you know He's there and watching over you, your family, AND your husband.
I'm a sincere believer, having no trouble whatsoever believing what you've just said and experienced. It doesn't matter to me that this is not a prayer circle thread, I'm always open to people posting things like this; it continues to reinforce my own belief that God has His hand in ALL things, and watches after His children.
I'm glad you shared this with me and others.
God will work within a WAS/MLC'er's heart for the asking, as what's within the heart, the mind will follow; He also will "add" to the love that's already there, again, working within the heart. He doesn't interfere with "free will" given to all, but He knows the "workaround", working on the people we love; and He will make our enemies at peace with us.
The Bible talks about many things coming out of the heart, good and bad. Keep praying for him, IRMAC; God knows what's needed when it's needed.
I remember the Lord sending my husband dreams of me that were shared with me, and I did see an increase of love for me; I had prayed for Him to work within my husband's heart; especially when things seemed SO hopeless. Yet, I know and knew the Lord was in my situation; the signs were SO clear, and my prayers continued to be answered throughout.
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have you seen this to be better for the LBS for them not to be close by or is it better when there is some kind of contact like most here, they see the children on a weekly basis.....to me I feel better because I really dont think I could handle running into them in a store,restuarant,etc. etc. etc.
IMHO, it is whatever will work for the LBS most of the time. I can say that when my husband was out on the road(that was the times we were separated for several days to up to several weeks at a time), it eased alot of the pressure on me, allowing me to continue the work on myself; also allowing him to do what he was doing within himself. I can understand where you're coming from; it's like when you see him your hurt seems to come to the surface, taking you all the way back to the beginning. Until you progress forward in healing to a point where you can stand to look at him without experiencing that deep, rending pain; it's best if you don't see him any more than you have to.
This last is my humble opinion. My husband never moved out, and I had to deal with him when he came home from his road trips as a trucker, and it took a great deal of strength on my part to deal...and there were times I remember crying hard in the night; after yet another bad day of dealing with him. I remember feeling SO alone; and the comfort of the Lord was a very welcome presence in my life; and still is, even now.
I learned to depend upon the Lord totally for my well-being, and the strength I needed to get through; one of the lessons I learned during his MLC. People will fail you, the Lord will NOT; and He takes care of his own. A great many people think because you're Christian you shouldn't have any trials at all, but that is not true....I've seen trials increase because I DO believe, but, as I learned to see it, if there were NO trials, we could not grow within them, becoming better and stronger people.
The MLC'er DOES have moments of clarity, they don't last for long; and they seem to "come back" temporarily..then the fog comes down again, covers them up, and they seem to "backslide".
Not your fault, theirs.
In theory, as they come forward the moments of clarity become greater, last longer; as each issue is confronted within, and resolved. But until then, it is touch and go, forward two steps, back three...and it can get quite frustrating for the LBS who is trying to hope for some movement forward without things going backward.
You are and have been praying for restoration of your marriage; I remember reading that on your thread. I will continue to add my prayers to yours; we can never get enough prayers for His help.
Always remember that the Lord works things on HIS timetable; and He is always right on time.
May He continue to be with you and your family, answering your prayers, giving you strength to continue to deal with his MLC.
You are welcome to post anything at anytime...with that said, everybody is welcome to post whatever they choose.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
