Together but still apart!!!!

[SMM23]

I would be wary of the R talk, pressuring and pursuit.

We have not really talked much about the she and I of things. Most of the talking was to understand each others feelings. And something she said very early rang a bell and Sandi2 hit it also, I really listen to her now. Before I listened, but I did not look at her and let herr know what she was saying was important to me.

Also- some say whenever there is ILYBINILWY- there may be OM.

I was worried about that also at first. But it would not be possible for a PA but that does not rule out an EA. She has been hooked on that damn Facebook for the last year. I think that should be shut down. It has cause more problems that anything.
If all the issues of the M are out on the table, why not work on the M?

You have already asked her so I wouldn't bother asking again. If you ask about OM, which I don't know if you should yet...if she says no, that doesn't mean anything.

I would let her initiate PT or hugs, I would not pursue her or follow her around.

I do not follow her around, but if I come in and she is there I will give her a hug. Same as bed. She has on a few occasions come in and hugged me before bed. I am not sure what to do with this one. I told her that I missed that the first day and that I was going to give her a hug everyday from now on. So if I stop doing it now, aren't I shouwing that I am stopping the changes I made? So if I stop this little thing, aren't I saying that the other changes are going to revert to what our relationship was before and she is not going to want to stay for that, right?