I doubt you are banging. But guess what? When I'm not banging and I "think" I'm constructively "dealing" with my loss and resentment, one day out of the blue I open my mouth and it pops out in a way I did not plan, intend, or even like. So if you're feeling it, it's banging around in your head at least so you better try to force it out somewhere (journalling, to your friend, whatever) before it "pops" out if you've decided tabling it for now is the WISE thing to do. Just an observation from someone who still does not have it down over here! LOL.
