How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

Inviting the FIL to dinner was something I had done and it failed. We also went out to his home for dinner. After talking to him from the heart about the whole situation a few times already, it has not and I don't think it will ever get me anywhere good.

My wife had text me a short while ago asking if the OMW called me anymore. I replied "No"

Then I called OMW and asked her to check the phone calls to see if they exchanged new phone numbers. OMW also told me that OM called her a few times today but she did not answer. He was crying and apologizing.

The more I talk to OMW the more other things about what had gone on make sense. It appears my wife is heavily influenced by this OM that she would often repeat to me (direct to me) things he had said about his wife. My wife has become very naive.

I am trying to put out so many fires here. From the past to this OM and the "bond" she thinks they share.

The OM said to his FIL that he would quit his job just to save his family.

I also found out my wife has female friends at work who are committing infidelity in their marriages. My wife is so vulnerable right now she may think it is OK t do what she is doing.