Agreed Ant, and I am attempting B.

I am actually not trying to control anything she is doing, I am just trying to understand it, and why.

And it turns out, that is the piece I am struggling with, as it doesn't seem to make sense.

I guess that is the crux, that it doesn't make sense, so you truly can't understand it..

M: 41
STBXW: 41
D: 9
Bomb: 4/26/09

On board the D train now..

"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."