Keep Moving Forward

[Gardener]

gima,

Got home last night and had fun snuggling up with D6 and hanging out with S10.

You're a real good dad (have I said that before?)

I virtually ignore W, so she has now taken to "talking" to me through the kids. For example, I sneezed last night - W, who used to tell me "bless you," asked S10 what we did when someone sneezed. S10 replied we say bless you.

At least it's disguised as reminding your son. And at least it hasn't hit that unacceptably childish level of "Please tell your father that..."

gima, you and I both know that the WAW has to cling to their "friends" issue to minimize and justify the enormity of their selfish behavior.

It's the way she can act no differently than before the bomb - as if we are one big, happy family unit that will not be affected by her decision to rip that apart.

See above. But I understand. Believe me I understand. My big blended family has already been - is - completely torn apart - gone! -and still she is in la-la land.

I still hold open the possibility of working on the M if she were willing to "do the work." Maybe that's my irrationality coming out. Or hope. Or dream. I don't know.

Or all three. But you do know that if something like that were to to take place, it would have to be done while she concurrently does her own work with an IC.

If she only knew how much we could do for each other in a new, healthy M and how much we could help the kids by doing that.

I'm finding that that truism takes a long time to go away. And it's so painful for me because it would have! But I, like you, was "the only one at the table in good faith," as my IC says.

Hang in there and enjoy the gifts of this day.