ok that is good mb28. I am trucking along with you and based on what Allen has been posting one thing is that we are the ADULTS and right now our husbands are like children. They need an adult example to follow. So mb28 I really believe that your husband will be coming around VERY soon...he is walking through the fog NOW!! What you can be doing is SHOWING your husband how an ADULT handles confusion in life...by seeing and talking to a QUALIFIED professional.
Therefore, you should start your own individual sessions BEFORE husband even agrees to going with you together. You start therapy and then husband will see you dealing with your confusion in an ADULT manner. This will spark his curiosity and continue to leave your therapist card around for husband to see when he comes over.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo