Scott, I was married to a Borderline for 12 years and it was pure hell.
I had never heard of this personality disorder before, and kept trying to figure out what was wrong and tried to fix it because I loved him so much.
But BPD is one of, if not the, scariest ones that there is. They have absolutely no regard for anyone but themselves and will say and do anything to get what they want. They lie, rewrite history, compartmentalize with ease, horrible, dark mood swings, irrational fits of anger, etc.
And there is absolute nothing that you can do. There is no correct answer to any of their "questions," no solution to any of their "problems." And that is the whole point to their sick games. It is a trap with no way out. You just have to get away from them.
Bi-polar has many of the same symptoms, and may be "treated" with varying degrees of success, but the individual needs to have the intellect to rise above their illness and know that they must stay on their meds. Too many of them do not have this. So, unless you are prepared for a life of pure hell, I advise you to move on.
Get out of the rescue mode and find a nice, healthy woman to spend your life with.
DO NOT MARRY AND BRING CHILDREN INTO THIS HELLISH SITUATION!!
