I think you did very well! Continue to be consistent and he will probably open up even more. At then end of your conversation you cut him off which was good and showed you GAL but maybe next time you can agree with him.
H: I just don't know what to do, I am so confused and lost. you: So am I which is why I have been seeing a FT. (then maybe leave the card around the house for husband to see).
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo