She said something like, the Bill she knew was so generous, nothing like what she's seeing now. I know that's from her perceptive, but it's really sad to me that what respect and good will we still have is eroding. I hate it.
My opinion is that your W had this all planned out; her script and you would be really generous, she would have no financial consequences, everything was going to be perfect. And now she's starting to realize that was a fantasy. Of course now that her fantasy isn't playing out, does she do any self-evaluation or blame you for that? That's typical WAS from what I've seen...
My X had fantasies like that too; he was going to have more money after the D, not have to pay any child support or alimony, he'd be happier, the kids would be happier after the D, I would meet someone, I'm sure something like he'd have the perfect R with OW (he didn't tell me that part though), basically the D was like Disneyland in his mind. And I've seen other WAS here say stuff like that.
My take on it was I always try to do the right thing for the kids, protect myself, but nothing punitive or vengeful. I pray about it. You can't control and shouldn't care what your W thinks about you. That's part of detaching that you need to work on. You do the right thing, and what people think about you shouldn't matter, b/c you're doing the right thing...
