My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[awest1217]

The key is to make sure you talk to him at the right time. Until then the biggest part of DBing is improving yourself. If H won't go to counseling with you, you should still go yourself. Connect with some old friends and hang out. Go and do something anything that will make you happy. Don't just sit around the house and do nothing. Get a life (GAL), and have some fun. Work on you, make yourself happy. This might push H farther away, or it might draw him closer, but overall you will be happier and stronger.

I know it is hard to believe in the beginning, but it helps. Read about depression. Talk to your counselor, and work on you. Then when the time is right and H comes to you, talk to him.