Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Well, H makes the first contact after his apology text to me. Of course its mostly just to talk to the kids. I hand the phone to the kids right away and they each talk to him. When he talks back to me, he seemed miffed that the kids really did not talk that much to him. Usually, the T.V is on and they try to converse with him while paying attention to cartoons. He then asks about how the kids are doing in school and mundane things.

I don't know how we got on the subject of money but H makes the announcement that he has ran out of money. Then he starts talking crazy about how he is going to be eating out of garbage cans soon. I just listened and then asked him if he had filled out any applications to which he replied that he did. Then my emotions got involved and I asked about his business and what his "business partner" was doing to help boost business. He said that they were working promoting the business, etc. I know that was probably a major no-no to inquire about her because it caused me to start a relationship talk. I went on and on and he said nothing but mostly answered yes or had no reply when I said anything about love or marriage. I now feel like an idiot for letting my emotions take control and I am sure what I said to him went in one ear and out the other. My conversation was all over the place. I will not do this again.

Reality is setting in for H. The only money that he has is his unemployment check and that goes into our joint account to help pay bills. I really do think that H would rather eat out of garbage cans than move back here because to come back will mean admitting that he failed and I guess he has too much pride to do that. I want him to succeed but not with OW in the picture. I also want our marriage to succeed but that is the farthest thing from his mind right now. Thanks for listening to me rant.