Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[ClingingToHope]

I hear you Trixi. I've never been able to read W all that well. I can tell when she's really down about work. Otherwise, the steely resolve could be a front for uncertainty.

I'd like to think there's at least some inner turmoil about throwing away a 15 year relationship -- the only relationship she's had longer than 3 months.

But Dottie the DB counselor and a lot of the sitches I've read on here indicate it's a long, long time, 18 months to two years, before anything might -- might -- change.

In W's case, there's stuff going on that I know is weighing on her. This is the time of year she has to do lots of reviews at work. Summer break is coming up. I always planned and made sure the summer stuff with the girls was paid for. She mentioned camps once in November and I haven't heard much since.

Taking care of the house -- it's a double lot with hills so mowing is a bear -- is all on her for the second straight year. Last year, when I left, I'd paid off the summer and was giving her much more money than I am now until July so she was feeling flush.

Now she's broke and, even though she said she doesn't care about money, no one likes to take steps backward. I guess she will feel the consequences of her actions soon enough.

Me? I'm just trying to fill my time because each day is another one towards full detachment.

I can't imagine a scenario anymore that would bring us back together.