OK, you don't need to TELL him, but even staying silent may tell him what he needs to know...
HUSBAND : So... What's wrong?
Wife just looks at him stone-faced --
HUSBAND : OK... I guess I'd better go...
Husband stares at the floor for a second, turns around slowly and drags his feet out the door.
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That COULD work too...
If you DO want to TELL him what's wrong... write it out ahead of time, do NOT let your impulses chose your words.. think it through ahead so you say something constructive...
My main concern is that you keep a consistent message
1. That something IS wrong 2. That you want your marriage 3. That he CAN do something to improve it
THOSE are the three pressure points you want to keep hitting him with... you've been doing great so far.
