Calling all affair annihilators & boundary setters

[courts0818]

My head is spinning when I think about this legal stuff.

When I say the lawyer I already met with has a strong child focus, what I mean is - she either does or used to work for the Department of Child Services in my city & county. I think I was referred to her bc I'm such a mess about what a divorce could do to my DD. This lawyer is supposed to focus on what is best for the child - I guess with cooperative parenting, custody, maintaining a similar lifestyle and so on. To be honest, I met with her about a yr ago and most of that meeting is a blur. She is a general practice attorney.

My sister recently met with an attorney for some issues with her ex. She said he tells it like it is and doesn't play around, that he will go for all you can get. He's rough and is not the kind to give a hug or comfort you. It's $250.00 just to meet with him. After he determines how much work he'll have to do for you, he decides what the retainer fee will be.

IDK...maybe I should have a second a meeting with the female laywer and also meet with the male lawyer to see what they both think I can get. Thoughts?

Does the lawyer actually use an affair to get the cheated on spouse more? Will they even look at all my proof - cell statement, bank statement, log of the time H has spend with DD since he moved out?

I'm worried about that huge chunk of $ I will have to pay H to possibly keep the house.

And the thought of "sharing" my DD just about kills me. I know my little girl needs her daddy, but he's such a shady rotten person right now, that I'm going to try get as much time with her as possible. I'd like to have her 24/7, but like I said, I know she needs her dad.

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