Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

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Babydoll, I am also scared of coparenting sessions for the same reason. It's like formal acceptance of the situation and saying that you're Ok with it all. So I think it's okay to say at some point "I'm not happy about this and did not chose this". It's really hard to stop saying "I love you" - there are perhaps other words that he will be more receptive to at the moment?

I think if you want to go head with counseling, then you have only to put the offer out there. But don't follow it up. Let him make the decision to come or not. Actions speak louder than words. My H's current speech is the "I love this child". And my response is, "And how, in the past 2 months, since my 3-4th month of pregnancy (when he told me he wanted out), have you demonstrated your love for this child?".

My mum is also going to be my birth partner. I have also hired an independent midwife who was my hypnobirthing teacher (I did classes over Jan/Feb). H didn't want to come, so my mum did. It was sad...I wanted to be sharing this with H, but mum was enthusiatic & these classes helped me with relaxation, I learnt alot about the power of the body and the baby to do to acheive birth, and to look forward to a positive birth. I did wonder what the other couples thought of me being there with my mum, but they never made me feel uncomfortable.

I have asked a friend of mine to organise a baby shower for me. I'm not looking forward to it, but I need practical assistance and so we're organising a registry. Not something I would ever normally do. But unusual solutions, for unusual circumstances.

Thanks for the tip on journalling..3 seperate ones is a good idea.

You sound very strong & I encourage you to keep it up. Keep in touch with your essential values. I was stronger in the beginning, though with advancing pregancy I feel you just get a little more worn out. Plus I am also losing hope about him ever coming back as time goes by, so that's probably adding to it. I still can't imagine doing this, or not having my life, without him.

I hope my question doesn't hurt too much, but are you still living in your own place and plan to stay there in case the worst happens and your H doesn't come home?