Sounds like you're doing what's necessary for now..the more you push/ask questions, the further they run.
I had the feeling earlier you were looking for someone to "tell" you what to do, and none of us can do that; we're not you, and the decisions such as they are, fall on you; though we can advise.
I have no experience with younger children in MLC, neither would I advise moving or not moving away. That's on you and what you may think is best for your situation.
I would suggest you take it easy on yourself and don't make any rash decisions at this point..you've had such a hard shock.
When your mind begins to clear, a direction will come; and I'm advising again, you'll need to begin to get the focus OFF him and onto you and your family. You cannot help him; I know you love him, but you must let him go to do what he thinks he has to do. That also means let go and let God work in this situation.
The main thing for now is to take care of YOU.
I've BEEN in your shoes; not the same situation, but dealt with MLC, and the shock is horrendous, your life is in shambles.
Allow yourself some time to absorb the shock; don't do anything during this time except pray and begin seeing that you're not at fault for what's happened.
You're worried sick about your husband; but don't let this bring you down so far that you're unable to care for your family. You and the children are what's important right now.
Will check in again.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
