Just an update on where we are at the moment in the tunnel of the unknown.
Over the past week the occasional text I have had from H have been more friendly, longer and softer.
He came this week to see the children as normal and what a difference. I thought he was reconnecting once before and in fact it was more of a touch and go although he did continue to make connections with friends and extended family.
This week he looked really well not grey, drawn and old as previously. He had a sparkle in his eye I haven't seen for months even before he left for OW. When we had supper he smiled and even made small jokes which we all laughed at! He spent a lot of time with the children talking and taking an interest in what they were doing. More than previously. D19 said it was like having her dad back again after the alien.
He also looked as if he was more comfortable at home as he had already identified previously that he found coming home very stressful and it caused him a lot of anxiety. He wandered around the kids bedrooms where they were doing homework etc. Previously he rarely went to them upstairs. When he did it was usually to say goodbye when he left.
I will have to watch and wait now and see what happens. His communication is still not good. He goes days without any communication at all. I will continue to let him have space to heal whilst detaching from his journey for myself.
