it doesnt matter what good you did or had, that's so far beyond her mentality. The fog they speak of, rewriting the history, going back in time and analyzing facial expressions, retorts, etc...she has no idea what it was really like- especially not the "good" times..
Do not remind her, do not promise, convince, etc.
Do not teach...just be happy, confident and detached.
validate, be civil, and do what you want- but work whatever 180s you need to.
