I said some hurtful things to my W in the midst of the chaos. We both wanted to start a family and she is going to be 39 in May. In the middle of the fray I told her we needed to hold off on the children b/c right now I didn't think she was responsible enough to be a parent. True yes. She keeps throwing this back at me saying I broke down her spirit so much that she just needed to find somebody to appreciate her. Hello OM. She doesn't even get the consequences, doesn't see what it does to me or anyone else. It's just me and then me, and oh yeah who else ME! They only focus on themselves. Everybody is against them trying to hurt them. Where their heads are at is nutty as squirrel breakfast!

You need to detach from this situation. Set boundaries and don't gut suckered in to the game until you see real commitment. The problem is you can't force any of this he has to figure it out. I would say based on his behavior lately your marriage is not high on the list of "what makes me feel less like sh#t right now."

Back to the dog anology "oh look there's a squirrel!" that's about as much attention span they have right now. I will find the link to detachment soemone sent me and post it.

Wow! I'm just happy I got to use the word "squirrel" twice in this post! I hope I spelt it right.

Gritt

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am