When my wife gave me the ILYBNILWY, she said she thought I was depressed because: I didn't have fun anymore even if out with friends, I didn't want to do stuff with the kids, I didn't interact with my family of hers at get togethers, etc. I never thought of it as depression. I work for a car dealership that is now owned by the government and all of this started with her about the same time of the bailout and talking of bankrupcy of the car dealers. No one knew at the time who would be shut down of what would happen. I was worried about my job and taking care of four kids and my wife if something happened to it. In hindsight, I can see that it affected my life more that I knew. After the speech, I made an appt. with my Dr. and, after some tests, he put me on ad and aa meds. I even tried hiding this from my W because I was ashamed that I needed them and couldn't handle life on my own. Of course, she found out and accused me of lying to her saying I was at work when I was at DR. I guess I did lie and add more fuel to the fire but didn't realize it at the time. Anyway, the medicine helped after @60 days. It does not cure it but does help me cope. As you could tell when you posted on my thread, I do have down days. I am having one now, but they don't last as long and they aren't as deep, you know? Just my two cents. Good luck!
