Knowing H he'll pull some manipulative stance that he won't repay me funds (or sign paper to) unless I sign D papers. I don't like to feel coerced into that as a manipulative tactic.
Personally I think a better thing for me - given that I've got a lot on my plate - is to take whatever he gives me and say I've got a ton on my mind right now, want the time to read over/digest, and wait until I have a quiet moment/in a better space. I know he's expecting me to sign things tomorrow so that he can go ahead and file next week. (I'd rather be at home first, settled, w the comfort of fam and friends)
Ugh. Is there anything I can do at this point to stop this? Resist signing? Just be friendly/amicable? Explain that I never wanted this... I dunno.
H, Absolutely. Go with your plan. Tell H you need to have L review, you are right in the midst of moving, and will read it carefully once you're in SF. Is this a legal doc, did he have a L draw it up? Please DO not sign it until you have an L look at it first. You may be feeling worried that H will lash out, as seems to be his pattern. This is totally understandable. Can you arrange to have a friend or someone else be there when H arrives? Or, can you text him now, telling him you've got A, B & C going on tomorrow, it's chaotic & ask him to have the doc sent to your new address?
I don't think you should say you never wanted this. Don't go down that path. He already knows. Keep it polite but firm.
Very interesting, what Talia posted. He has gone over a yr. without doing anything about the D & now you're moving Wed. and suddenly he wants you to sign something (is it a S agrmt or D papers?) tomorrow??
Try practicing what you'll say to him. Please DO not sign the thing until you are comfortable & ready. I know that feeling of being pressured and it is very uncomfortable. You are stronger than you think, let him know tomorrow's not good. It's too close to moving time.
