I told her we needed to do separate parties and so now we are.
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should I go ahead and let her come to the skate party?
IDK, have invitations, expenses, etc. been out toward the second party? I think you are going to look kind of like a jerk. You should have waited until after this party to start the separate ones. Is this suppose to be a party you are hosting....or your W? If she is hosting it, then I think it would be very rude to try to stop her from coming. If this is the party you are giving.....I thought she agreed for separate ones? IDK, I'm confused.
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So I quickly said, "Oh, I've just been thinking about some things lately--just thinking about some stuff" ******************************************************* WAS THAT A GOOD RESPONSE OR NOT?
When in doubt...don't say anything.
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How can I show her I still love her and yet be independent and GAL and that possibly she could come back---without my seeming like I'm sitting around waiting??
You stop letting your fear show. You move forward and think about letting self confidence show. You think about a great personality showing. By acting like a man who any woman would be crazy to leave.
If you start worrying about how will she see how much you love her....it will turn you into a whimp. Don't think about that right now. Think about how you could be a better individual person--and cause your life to become more fulfilled.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!