This is my approach for today. Yell at me some more! I've waffled on this since coming on here, and I feel like I'm getting good advice. If nothing else it feels good to talk to people who are coming from where I'm at. Earlier today I was totally ready to call the other wife, but my wife expressing doubts made me reconsider.
I think you are afraid of your W. But you have to ask yourself this - what's the worst she can do? Have an affair and leave you? Too late.
Earn her respect now or you may never have another chance.
I did not have an A, but I left my H b/c of most of the WAW reasons. You should read his thread ("Coach"). He EARNED my respect, I moved home and am now more in love with that man that I was the day I married him. Tough Love works.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08