Chatterbug - I guess my point here is that the primo time to expose the affair was right away, and I let that slip because I was weak and stupid. Now that she's actually moved out, but still talking to me, and has expressed doubt about it, why would I throw a wrench into things? If things between us can actually improve to the point of her coming home, why kill that chance? I took this advice straight from MWD's linky on the front page "while she decides," and if nothing else it gives me hope, which gives me confidence, the ability to sleep at night, and the strength to face another day.
Another interesting point is that the other guy may actually get a full time cop job two counties away (where he lives), removing him from the picture, at least physically. I'd insist on total disclosure from her in the future (email, text, where she's at, etc) but am willing to wait to cross that bridge. I know he's a cake eater, he wants his wife AND mine. That bird won't hunt for long.
This is my approach for today. Yell at me some more! I've waffled on this since coming on here, and I feel like I'm getting good advice. If nothing else it feels good to talk to people who are coming from where I'm at. Earlier today I was totally ready to call the other wife, but my wife expressing doubts made me reconsider.
