P.S. I followed the path of Tough Love. I am proud of it. I did not save my marriage. I saved myself. And I am becoming a better man because of all this [censored]. A work in progress. But thats the secret about all this that is so profound once you figure it out and start living the DB life in all your relationships.
You have already received very good advice. Now we will await your actions based on that advice. Choose your paths wisely.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!