Read this from Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2324896#Post2324896

Here is a thread about Recovery 2 years on

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2243887#Post2243887

Hell here is a whole section
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=30&page=1



Do what you want to do. Most of us posting to you followed the path. She may not love you any more but she will respect you.

Do you understand it took time to destroy your marriage. That it will take time to break an affair and to MB. It takes Years.

You have to weight this against starting over. Or like some you follow both paths.

Eventually though one path ends.

Regret is rather interesting.
For it is better to regret something you have done than what you could have done.

So take time to read and see what others did that worked and did not work.

Then build a plan. Set goals and learn about the affair.

Your story is the same as many before you. Learn.

Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul.
unconditional love is awesome!