It no longer allows you to be a scapegoat or a doormat for your ML'er. He has to to find another person for this job, and usually it is the OW/OM. It makes the Ml'er look within, hopefully. I wish that I would have gone dark at the very beginning, but hindsight is 20/20.
This is interesting insight. I have talked to the LBW of the OM a numbe of times and we came to conclusion that the longer they had us angry and bitter the more it justified their behavior and the longer it would be before they might have any guilt over their actions.
I'm not sure i want to be married to you anymore - 8-30-09 ILYBINILWY = 9-4-09 Busted her on a date 9-19-09 Separation - 9-21-09 Divorce - 10-9-09 S15 S13 S10 M - 18 Years
