Screen Problems Might Be: If you're using Internet Explorer 8, you need compatibility mode on (the box with a broken page next to refresh)
You mentioned culture, were you talking about TTA?\
Thank you for the tip! (RE: compatibility mode). It worked. This has been driving me crazy for some time as I can't use the quote feature. Now I can! And yes, I was talking to you about the culture issue, sorry I was not clear.
Looking at others POV is hard, that is probably why I've often talked about "how do you think he sees it?". Not mind reading, just trying to see the other side. I've heard a phrase, 'make 73 excuses for your brother'. While responsibility always need be first, the excuses make it easier (for me) to look at someones reason when I'm convinced I already know that answer. Easier doesn't mean I do it nearly enough!
You are correct, it is very hard to really see things from the other side. And once can't truly attempt to see things from the other side if they (you, me) have already decided what is right or wrong. I used to tell my H all the time (pre-bomb) when he hurt my feelings. He always said "well, they shouldn't be hurt". Yeah, to you they should not be hurt but it doesn't mean they are not! That was a huge issue for us. If he said something shouldn't be, well, that was that.
Sorry to hear about your sitch CG, but I have a feeling that all of us on these boards in our own ways are or have learned a lot about moving on if it comes to that. Your next R will likely be much stronger for your dedication now.
Thanks. I am actually doing quite well with the occasional setback. I am in no hurry to get in another R but I do date very casually from time to time.
