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You mentioned culture, were you talking about TTA?\
Looking at others POV is hard, that is probably why I've often talked about "how do you think he sees it?". Not mind reading, just trying to see the other side. I've heard a phrase, 'make 73 excuses for your brother'. While responsibility always need be first, the excuses make it easier (for me) to look at someone's reason when I'm convinced I already know that answer. Easier doesn't mean I do it nearly enough!
Sorry to hear about your sitch CG, but I have a feeling that all of us on these boards in our own ways are or have learned a lot about moving on if it comes to that. Your next R will likely be much stronger for your dedication now.
ADHD was mentioned by NewMama...I'm off and on using meds, but one thing many adults know is that years of problems as children make one both stronger, and also more easily hurt by certain things. The POV thing/understanding for you TTA is a good thing, I think, because it helps know what buttons you can push to get the idea that change is needed. My W knows many of my buttons for good, but rarely uses them. I know she knows them, because when she uses them I tell her~ Frankness is definately a mixed bag of goodies with ADHD!
