Look at it this way =- you are trying out different things "to see what works". Your life has been turned upside down. You are doing better than I was two months in!
So, why not try the ADs, or the meds for ADHD, and if it doesn't work, you can go off them. Why not try inviting H camping and see what he says. If he says no, you have your answer for similar events in the future - don't ask.
I know it's crazy - try to find a little quiet spot inside that tells you what to do. Even if you only access this spot for five mintues a day, listen to it. I often can be this quiet before falling asleep.
