OIN, if your wife keeps saying she needs someone to talk to, I would emphasize this man is NOT a qualified family therapist and is in NO POSITION to give even half way useful advice
If she wants help, as you said, say lets get you some help... but this guy ain't it.
Lastly OIN... you need to STOP focussing on what she says.
When she says she wants out... what she MEANs is "I am miserable"... you need to learn to SHUT out the negative stuff...
I think you said you don't have children yet.. so, imagine a child yelling to their mother "I hate you, you're a horrible mother"...
Children do this ALL THE TIME.. its extortive.. its an attempt by teh child to force the mother to SUBMIT to the child's authority... a GOOD mother will just stand back and let the child rant... not angry, not affectionate, just indifferent..
Let your wife RANT...
Ignore IT... when YOU consume her negative energy, it stays in teh ROOM and she FEEDS off it LATER..
you need to getnerate POSITIVE energy.. I am NOT saying be warm and kind, your wife is cheating...
I am saying, FEEL good, FEEL focussed, feel optimistic when you speak on the phone to people, when you takl to anyone.. sh will FEED off THAT instead of HER crappy mood.
Her affair makes her MORE miserable, but YOU can offset that at least by projecting something positive
You need to learn to let her rants DROP to the FLOOR.. right now you ar PICKING them UP and CARRYING them AROUND with you... that's going to give you anxiety over the next few weeks if you don't stop it.
And thats just giong to give your WIFE anxiety.. put a STOP to it on YOUR END... NOW.
