Officer in need, i would definitely get some of your buddies to go have a chat with this guy... CLEARLY he is disrespecting you and he is NOT afraid of you.. YET.. give him a REASON to be...
What, and get them -- or you -- arrested?
LEAVE HIM BE. This is a recipe for disaster! You spoke your peace (and in a way that no one here recommended, but at least you spoke it), and there's no sense in escalating things. There are other ways to verify no-contact, and to lay out (and enforce) your boundaries.
He's a pimple on your ass from here on out.
Tell your wife "I decided that I was no longer going to allow the two of you to lie to your spouses anymore. Let's get some good counseling, and we can talk about it further."
