Reconstructing Bart

[C-Bart]

Well this is interesting. W just called. Said she is not signing separation papers. I thought this was good but its not that she doesn't want a D. Now she is saying she needs financial support. Go figure.

She was at her best in trying to trigger me. Said she forgot I was filing it as a LS. Said my L was not returning phone calls, was sloppy, etc. I think most of this is coming from her L. She kept throwing out the bait and I wouldn't bite. I did say my L and I had our paperwork done last Friday - not sure what happened between then and now.

I was very calm and controlled in my response. Said I was sorry she was having problems financially but there was nothing I can do about it. Said I was disappointed that we couldn't move forward and I was hoping the separation would be done before the deadline (Monday). Said I really didn't want to have to re-file.

Something became vary obvious during our conversation. I have grown in so many areas. One of the big ones is financially. I've been working like a mad man to get myself out of dept, fix my credit and to be responsible for myself. I've made huge progress in this area.

What is also obvious is she has done nothing to improve herself. She is putting all her eggs on being D as the solution to her unhappiness. She is still using me as an excuse for not moving forward in constructive ways.

I feel really good about how I handle today's situation. Proud of myself. Couple times there were points that I wanted to scream at her something like this is what happens when you split a family apart. Or maybe you should spend less time in hotels and more time at the library. But I didn't and I'm glad cause I was in control of myself. Good place to be!