How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

So I get a call from OMW and she wants us to go to their work place and confront them as they exit. So I agree. They both come out and OMW approaches them. He is stunned and my W just tries to walk about. OMW grabbed my W arm and turned her and said "I told you to stop the phone calls and all this talking" my wife is a terrorfied look on her face said "We did, I did" I then walked up and suprised my W and said "No, you didnt. Enough is enough" She was in shock. So I then jump in OM face and give him a piece of my mind. He is scared and repeatedly said I am backing off I told her all the calls and talking are over. I grab my W hand and said lets go home and we walked away.

My W then went through a range of emotions from angry to sad to upset ect. she said "He was just easy to talk to, noone else would listen" and I said "I am here for you" she said no you are not 10 years of you acting like this...She then proceded to say we should have never got married and that it has been a while since she was deeply in love with me. That it is over she will start the process. She can never be happy with me cause she can never forgive the things I did ect..

I did what I had to do but in the process I killed every chance I may have at reconciliation. I told her as long as we are married you will not make these calls any longer, you need to respect me at the very least.

I don't know what is going through her head right now but she is certain she wants out.