I just read a post earlier that said no matter how bad the H had been, he did not deserve to be cheated on. After reading about a man like yourself.....I must think hard about that statement. Maybe you don't deserve to be cheated on, but neither do you deserve to have a wife. You didn't appreciate her and treated her like dog poop and think that after 5 or 6 days of the new "you"--she should be ready to forget everything and ready to work on the R? She's been with you for ten years! Hey, I'd be looking for the door too!
Was all this new found knowledge due to the counselor explaining why you were such a jerk?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
