I only responded to the email with "I want our marriage to work, and believe that it can". I never got a response from him. However, I did see him last night for about 10 min and of course he looked depressed and I acted like I didn't notice and went about my business of getting ready for bed when I got home. He finally asked me what was wrong. I said nothing why? He looked at me funny like he was testing my reaction. Then out of know where (this caught me totally of guard) he hugged me right before he left.
For my sitch, I think the positives I'm getting from my H is mainly from me holding my emotions at bay, and not allowing R talk. It's not neccasarilly going dark for me, it's just changing my attitude (upbeat). I guess it's more like detaching with love. And what's helped these last few days, is to keep telling myself NOT to expect anything from him.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
